Learning to Trust Yourself in Motherhood (Especially When It Comes to Feeding Your Baby)

When I became a mum for the first time, I was constantly looking for reassurance.

Am I doing this right?
Am I giving her enough?
Should I be doing something differently?

Those thoughts were always there, in the background.

And what surprised me was how quickly I started doubting myself… even with things that felt like they should be straightforward.

The weight of second-guessing

I didn’t realise it at the time, but I was spending so much energy second-guessing everything.

I was looking things up all the time, comparing different approaches, reading opinions… trying to figure out what the “right” way was.

And honestly, the more I looked, the more confused I felt.

Instead of feeling sure in my decisions, I felt like I was always adjusting, always questioning, always wondering if I was missing something.

It’s exhausting.

Because you care so much… but it never really feels settled.

What shifted for me

There wasn’t a big moment where everything changed.

It happened gradually.

I started paying more attention to what was actually happening in front of me instead of constantly looking for answers elsewhere.

My baby.
Her reactions.
What I was noticing day to day.

I didn’t stop learning, but I stopped taking everything in as equally important.

I became more selective with what I listened to.

And over time, I felt more grounded.

I wasn’t being pulled in every direction anymore. I could make a decision and actually stick with it without questioning it five minutes later.

How this shows up in feeding

This is something I see all the time now, especially when it comes to feeding.

There is so much information out there.

One person says to start certain foods early.
Another says to avoid them.
One guideline says one thing, another says something completely different.

And in the middle of that, you’re just trying to feed your baby well.

Of course it feels confusing.

You might be wondering:

• Is my baby eating enough?
• Am I introducing the right foods?
• Should I be doing this differently?

And it’s easy to think the solution is to keep searching for more answers.

But what I’ve noticed, both for myself and for the mums I work with, is that at some point, more information stops helping.

What actually helps is learning how to look at your baby and trust what you’re seeing.

What that can look like in real life

It’s not about suddenly feeling 100% sure all the time.

It’s much simpler than that.

It might look like noticing that your baby is doing really well with what you’re offering, even if it doesn’t match what you’ve seen online.

Or realising that something doesn’t sit well with your baby, and giving yourself permission to slow things down instead of pushing through.

Or choosing to stick with an approach that feels right for your family, even if it’s different from what others are doing.

Those small moments start to add up.

And over time, you spend less energy questioning every step, and more energy just being present with what you’re doing.

Feeding becomes something you move through, rather than something you constantly analyse.

And this is exactly what I see with feeding as babies grow

As your baby gets older, things naturally become more varied.

More meals.
More foods.
More opinions from other people.

And this is often the stage where doubt creeps back in.

Because you’re expected to just “know” what to do, but there’s no single clear path.

What tends to help here isn’t another set of rules to follow.

It’s having a way to understand what’s going on with your baby so you can make decisions that actually make sense in your day-to-day life.

This is something I guide parents through inside The Confident Feeder.

👉 You can explore The Confident Feeder here

We go into things like:

• how to structure meals as your baby grows
• how to introduce and reintroduce foods in a way that supports digestion
• how to handle snacks, picky phases, and changing appetites
• and how to adjust based on your baby, rather than second-guessing every choice

So instead of constantly wondering if you’re doing it “right,” you feel more settled in how you’re feeding your baby.

A gentle reminder

You don’t need to have everything figured out.

You don’t need to get every decision right.

You’re allowed to pause, adjust, and learn as you go.

And most of the time, what you’re seeing in front of you is already giving you the direction you need.

You just need to trust it a little more.